My posting has been erratic at best, I apologize. There is only so much you can say about having nothing to say….but now I do. I’m gearing up for a transfer and I need help. Your help. YOURS? Yes, yours. I am at my wits end about how many to transfer. I’m terrified of two things – getting pregnant with twins and not getting pregnant at all. My history with Alex included preterm labor but I had a lot of stress around the time it all went down (husband lost job). I now have FIVE GAZILLION amounts more stress (own a preschool – hello!?!). I literally have children that I look after and over all day long and I fret. I am a little “type A” as my husband says. Ya think? These kids are someone’s entire life and you better believe that a boo boo or bite or whatever happens in the course of the day is something I’m involved with – I also love being around them which isn’t great since I’m CMV negative (that is for another day). But I’m going to be 45 and with two CGH normals – one 5AB and the other 4BB – I have a good chance of both implanting. I think my son was a lower quality embryo and developed slower but the 5AB is a great shot and it is a girl and the 4BB a boy. I also worry that if one works then how can I go back for the other? I’ll be 50 by the time my body recovers and I just can’t do that – already 45 feels a bit old to be doing this. Anyway, I am going to do it. My DH and I have been having stress arguments. It is normal, I know but not helpful. He seems to think I should just put them both back in but doesn’t understand that means I will be laying around for 9 months (not running a preschool). Oi vey.
So how many? My gut says do an ESET with the higher quality first (the girl) and then if life is so kind as to give us the means to afford a surrogate, we go for the 4BB a year after she is born. That feels weird and freaky to say so let’s just hope I didn’t jinx myself.
I’ve always thought I’d have three kids and well, who knows. I just hope it works. Something about finally doing it is making me a little unhinged. It feels so final and what if it does not work? I have no plan B.
So what do you think, internets? Should I transfer both? I did carry to full term even if I was 4cm dilated for about 5 months.
I am also concerned that the CGH process is going to hurt them – and I’m concerned about my age – although my OBGYN told met hat if I get pregnant it is the same odd as a younger person because a muscle is a muscle and mine has proven to work once. Whatever the heck that meant, to be honest. Muscles fail too, you old goat. MUST.ONLY.SEE.A.WOMAN.GYNO.
Oh and I recently had a huge scare with a lump – that was handled poorly and made me nearly jump off the bridge. Thankfully it is all normal – so far.
Lastly, I have an UP band which is an annoying little wrist bandt hat tells you how much sleep, what you are eating and how deep you sleep, etc. It basically is ruling my world right now. I’ve lost a few pounds since its arrival on Christmas so I guess I like it. Actually, for what it is going to help me do (have a baby, I hope) it is a fantastic thing and great motivation. It even buzzes me if I don’t do anything for over 10 minutes. I guess that is the definition of lazy – not moving your hand for 10 minutes. Right.
Over to you – help!!!! I’m looking at a mid March transfer if I can get grumpy husband to agree to all the malarky involved (the trip out, the blood and the cost). It has to be done and hell, I’m doing all the work. Decisions.
Happy New Year, Readers. I promise to be a little more interesting in 2013. This has been a weird year. Next year I’m going to rock and roll and i hope you do to (whatever that means to you). Now off to make an appt in my calendar to schedule an appt with Schoolcraft. That might take a minute or two (or a week or two). Onward and upward!
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As a wise IVFer once said … only take what you can handle. We transferred two. One was hatching and the other was good grade. Wow. I sound like an elementary teacher on a fieldtrip to Smith Brothers Farms. Any who, we thought we could handle twins but hoped for a singleton. That’s what happened too. Hope this helps. Xoxo
Thank you! I feel the same way…I think I might just transfer two. At my age, really???