Ever notice you get more out of a conversation with nurses than doctors? At least I do. I am the kind of person that needs to know everything if it affects my life (from my low vitamin D to IVF to what my son is going to need to succeed in math). I think they call people like me Google doctors (I’m getting old, there could be another word). How I lived 30 of my 45 years without google is amazing. I’m prone to tangents so will not digress… Digression free posting.
Onward. So, I called to schedule a chat about a February or March transfer. I discussed switching to Dr. G simply because I find it hard to cope with Dr. Schoolcraft’s moods (one time he is amazingly supportive and the next I might as well give up). I know he has a lot on his plate and when he is friendly, I worship him but I don’t know if he understands how one little flippant remark can ruin (at least me) a person for a week?? I read into everything he says. The nurse told me that there would be a bunch of paperwork and blah, blah, blah to go through and…let’s be honest, I came to CCRM for him. So I am putting on my big girl panties and will just try to be bulletproof when we have a regroup. I have already made an arrangement to receive IVig one week before transfer (if my lining looks good) so will be flying back and forth to NYC/Denver a little bit (I’m sure that will help with the relaxation!). I’ve been doing a lot of reading about early miscarriage and implantation failure (thank you for the book, Dr. Jonathan Scher and my kindle). If you have normal embryos and failure to get pregnant it might just be your immune system. Oh how I wish CCRM would take that on board and at least TRY it. So, I’ll be doing what I need to do to make this work with my body. I have to be honest, I’m terrified on so many levels.
Terrified that it works and I fail these embryos who already have names (that is how confident I need to be) and I save their google email addresses (yes, officially crazy but times are changing!). I hold on to little signs that it will work but then think about the state of this world, our divisions and greediness and failure to remember the past and learn from it. I wonder if I am bringing in potentially two children to a world that won’t be able to sustain them. I think about them suffering or with no home. I wonder if I am being selfish. I am also terrified that it won’t happen and that my son’s one wish in life to have a sibling will be over, kaput. I worry about a lot of things and about people I don’t even know and children who don’t even belong to me.
My son just walked in the room and announced that he is going to be a plumber when he gets older. Now do you see why I worry? Well, it is better than a soldier (that was yesterday’s occupation).