Typical me….I just had to keep digging. I booked an ultrasound with a fetal medicine group this am (outside of my doctor’s care). I just didn’t feel comfortable with the results I’d been given – especially with regard to the sac size. I mean, you don’t have to be a genius to see that this embryo is running out of room. When they did the scan they discovered that the baby had grown (and yes, I’ll call it a baby because that is what it is to me) which was good news but the sac had not grown. In fact, the baby and the sac are measuring the same. This is a horrible prognosis – 80/90 percent of pregnancies with this result end in miscarriage. The baby simply does not have enough room to grow and loses its heartbeat. I think the Dr. at this practice was a bit relieved that I knew all about the prognosis and was able to discuss it in a matter of fact way. It was only when I thought about all I’ve been through in the past year and the idea that in the next few days this baby will die inside of me…that is when I started to cry and couldn’t stop. I felt worse for the doctor – it can’t be easy for them to sit and watch some stranger fall to pieces.
I’ll be ok now that I have the facts. I can stop hoping and prepare myself for the worst. I honestly thought the getting pregnant part would be my only struggle – I didn’t in my wildest imagination believe that I’d be faced with this kind of predicament…waiting for this much hoped for, much love child to simply die inside of me and there is not a thing I can do about it.
I hope I’m wrong but….the odds are stacked against me. I’ll post on Monday when I have the ultrasound at my RE’s office.
You know what the worst thing about all of this is? Most of the embryos that have this happen to them are normal. Fuck.
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I’m so very sorry.
BTW, a friend from IVFC
Thank you my friend from IVFC – I don’t know what I would do without that board and all the women on it. I’ve feel very alone without all of you.
I am so sorry you received this news, although I am just like you and would be searching for info and scheduling U/S. You are in my prayers!
oh god, i am so sorry. i hope you end up being wrong.
My heart goes out to you Suzanne, hearing your experience. Hopefully with your next visit you’ll get more clarity about what’s happening. I had a miscarriage at about 7 weeks and the getting pregnant part, was just part of the rollercoaster, the time afterwards was hell, not knowing what was going to happen from one day to the next with low beta numbers, spotting etc. Lets hope that the results will be different to what you suspect. If they are what you suspect, please know that we are here for you. Take care of yourself in the meantime.